What Stylish Girls Know

Dahlings, have you ever noticed the air of mystery (and envy) surrounding stylish girls? You know that girl right? We all know one. She looks great every day; everything is always in place, her shoes, her bag, her make-up and her hair, smashing ! And You wonder how does she do it??

Now for some of us style is innate, for the rest of us, we have to work a little bit harder. But style is achievable for everybody. You too can be stylish and you probably already are if you're reading this blog.

Here's what I've observed about Style mavens ( note that I am not talking about so-called Fashionistas, who are fashion crazed and not necessarily focused on long term impact or style).

Stylish girls have developed a signature style that speaks to who they are, what their interest are. But consciously or unconsciously they know that they give pleasure and joy to those who look and interact with them.

Stylish girls love themselves and are confident. They are not only dressing to make themselves feel better but because they love themselves and that is expressed through the pleasure they take in dressing.

Stylish girls are not chasing trends. They may take a cue from a trend and or adopt it to add a jolt to their existing wardrobe but they are not seduced by a piece of clothing simply because it's of the moment. It must speak to them and their personal style directly.

Stylish girls think about everything they wear. They don't obsess about how they look but  manage to look fabulous in every aspect of their lives, wearing the appropriate clothing for the right environment.

Stylish girls don't do too much! They never walk out of the house wearing everything they own all at once. Stylish girls discriminate Dahlings.

Stylish girls have taste. Taste is eclectic, individual and well, tasteful. There is a difference between vulgarity and sexuality.

Stylish girls have a uniform. They have an outfit or favorite clothing items to grab in a pinch. (My uniform is a blazer with jeans or a black dress).

Stylish girls are not label snobs. They understand when quality matters but know when to dip down in the bargain bin or stop by the bargain basement! They are not in debt because of what's in their closet. They make careful shopping decisions.

Stylish girls are not limited by the amount of or lack of money they have to spend on clothes. They get creative looking for bargains, deals and convince friends to "borrow" an item here and there to maintain.

Stylish girls understand the power of accessories to elevate an outfit and to express themselves.

Stylish girls understand sometimes to be aware is more important than what you wear.

Final word: Fashion unites us, but style sets us apart. Anyone can wear fashionable clothes but can you wear clothes in a way that speaks to who you are and what makes you unique? Style does not happen by accident Dahlings. You have to put the work in upfront to decide what your desired look is and then work within those parameters and continue adjusting it as you move through life. While style is innate for some, it can be learned and it's okay to take inspiration from others to create, define and or enhance your style. But remember always DO YOU!

What style rule do you live by?